With a 90% Chance of Drama.

Chris Rock said something in one of his stand up comedy acts, that stuck with me, and from what I can see, is true. He stated that in a relationship, "you are either happy and bored, or miserable and loving it".
If you think of all the relationships you know of, every one falls into one of those categories. It seems like it's either an up again, down again, rollercoaster, full of drama, heartache and tears, or it's bland, rational, monotone and quiet. Every romantic movie every made is one or the other aswell. You have movies like "Date Night" where a couple is great together, and seem to get along with no confrontation, but want more excitment in their relationship, or you have the typical, boy meets girl, boy leaves girl, boy and girl hate each other, boy and girl get back together drama. (usually a chick flick)
So why are there these two main types of relationships? I think, in part, is has to do with the fact that, as humans, we were not designed to be monogamous. Experts figure we are designed to fall passionatly in love with someone, mate, raise a child through infantcy, and by then, the love wears out, and we move on. MRIs have shown dopamine is produced in the brain, for about the first 7 months of a relationship, when a person is shown a picture of there partner. Serotonin also drops 40%, giving you the "love sickness", which can make you do odd things and give you new viggor. People with OCD also have about 40% lower serotonin levels than the average person. Some traits of being in love seem to match those of OCD, don't you think?
The point is, the passion, or lust if you will, wears out, and when it's gone, you either start fighting, or you become friends. The couples that always argue, and leave each other, only to make up and get back together, like the intensity of the relationship. The constant drama keeps it exciting. Never knowing what the next day will bring. Hate and anger, are intense feelings and some people would rather feel those emotions, than none at all. The Eminem/Rihanna song "Love the way you lie" sums up this type of relationship best.
"As long as the wrong feels right
It's like I'm in flight
High of a love
Drunk from the hate
It's like I'm huffing paint
And I love it the more that I suffer."
On the other end of it, you have the couples that just seem to jive. No raising their voices, no kicking each other out of the house, they just get along. There's no drama, and if you were to put it into a movie, it would be a very boring movie.
For some, their day to day life, is all they need for excitment, drama, and stress. Work might be intense, and stressful. Maybe bills, and other finacial problems create enough drama. Maybe the intensity of some of their hobbies, is more than enough to keep them feeling alive. Maybe being best friends with their partner is the perfect balence in their life. Something stable, and calming to come home to every day.
For the others, maybe their job is boring, and everything in their life is very grey. They need something emotional to feel alive, even if it's a stressful emotion. Sometimes getting into an intense debate can be very exhilarating, and just what someone needs to bring them back to life.
Both types of relationship have their pros and cons, and suit different people for different reasons. My only concern is the effects a "miserable and loving it" relationship might have on children. I think raising children in an environment where the parents fight often, can have major adverse effects.
Either way you look at it, it's very strange that monogamy is forced upon us by society. When did we start becoming monogamous? I'm guessing it came with the invention of religion, and with it, marrage. I believe that in todays society, we must be monogamous if we choose to have children. The burden of raising a child on your own, with the demands of todays world, is too much to ask of one person.
I hope anyone reading this, can help make sence of their own relationships, and decied for themselves, do you want to be happy and bored, or miserable and loving it?